I was originally writing this as a comment over at Deconstructing Glee. But I’m sort of over the discussion, so here is my last word on the subject (directed to Dawn Webber):
“I agree that all the relationships in Glee are problematic. The entire show is problematic.
And I am *not* making light of abuse. At all. You *can’t* tell me what an abusive relationship is. Your experiences do not represent the sum total of all kinds of abuse. You are not the final arbiter of what is or is not abusive.
The Born this Way ep stands out to me because this was the turning point for how I perceived Wemma. I found that scene with the fruit unbelievably triggering. I’ve been in abusive situations *exactly* like that.
Fine. You (and most commenters in this thread) do not and would not perceive a person behaving the way Will does as abusive. Great. Does this change the fact that some people might? No. Does it change the fact that some people in this situation would consider it abusive and some would not? No. Everyone decides what is or is not good for them.”
This was, ultimately, the point of my post. It is about agency. And ableism. And the abuse so common among people with different abilities or who are neuro-atypical. I don’t *care* about these characters beyond what they tell me about larger social attitudes about disability and abuse.
I repeat: I do not care about these characters. If you are only disagreeing with me because you are fan of the show or these particular characters, you’ve missed the point entirely. But since I don’t actually care, I’ll capitulate. Will is not abusive. Happy?